Self Care for Anxiety (your plan and permission slip)

Feb 16, 2017 | Anxiety, Blog

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Does anyone else think ‘self-care’ and ‘self-love’ has become a bit of a cliche? Having a bubble bath, getting a massage, repeating positive affirmations ’til you’re blue in the face?

Maybe you’re not the bubble bath type (I for one, get bored after about 10 minutes!) Maybe you hate being touched by a stranger and so a massage is a definite no-no. Maybe you’re wondering who has the time (or the money?!) for all that.

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But ‘self-care’ is important. Super important! For two specific reasons. Self care and anxiety are seriously linked.

Firstly, when you take care of yourself, you send yourself (and your nervous system) a message of safety. The problem with modern life is that it doesn’t make us feel that safe. Our poor nerves get a hammering.

Trump’s Twitter feed getting scarier by the day.

Pinging emails 24/7.

That extra pile of work that lands on your desk at 4:45pm on a Friday.


The constant implication from your Instagram that your life is boring and you need a new wardrobe (and a possibly a new arse).


It’s decidedly more ‘fight or flight’ than ‘rest and digest’.

But when we do something to take care of ourselves.

We slow down.

We’re kinder.


More loving.

We’re sending ourselves a message of safety and security. And that is ONLY a good thing in an age of anxiety.
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Secondly, self-care sends you the very important message that you are a worthy and valuable person, worthy of being taken care of!

Self-worth is nearly ALWAYS linked to anxiety so anything you can do to bolster to ‘ol self-worth is vital.

With self-worth, you feel stronger, more capable, more able to handle whatever the future brings. You’re less likely to beat yourself up and you handle setbacks more easily because you feel good about yourself as a person.

A side note: The root of WHY we don’t do the things we KNOW will help us is that sometimes, we don’t feel we deserve it. But trust me, if you KNEW yourself to be the precious, one-of-a-kind-miracle-of-human-life that you actually are, you’d treat yourself like GOLD all day, ‘ery damn day.

And! The more you take care of yourself the easier it gets because you start to feel more and more that you’re worthy of being taken care of.

So how can you make self-care work for you? No bubble baths required (although if that’s your thing, go fill up the tub now!)

Answer these questions to give yourself some ideas: (Come on: Don’t just read through, make some notes and take some action!)

What would I do differently if I loved myself and knew I was worthy and valuable?

How would I speak to myself?

Who would I spend time with?

What boundaries would I set?

What would I eat, and how?

How would I unwind?

What would I do less of?

What would I do more of?

What plans can you put in place to make this happen? What action can you take RIGHT NOW?

Let me know in the comments what things come up for you! I would love to hear (and get ideas!)

oh..BTW! It’s not selfish.
A calm and happy you radiates good vibes to everyone you meet. We all know smiles are contagious, well so is stress. Don’t be a martyr. Being a stressed out Mum, employee, business owner or friend because you think it’s selfish to take care of yourself isn’t helping anyone, especially not you. If you’re taking care of yourself, other people will benefit. The bus conductor that you’re able to be friendly to because you’re feeling happier and more centered, your colleague who you can support because you’re the calm and clear-headed one, your partner that you’re able to truly appreciate because you’ve slowed down enough to see the little things that they do for you. Peace starts with you and it’s contagious.

PS: If you’re telling yourself ‘I don’t have time to take care of myself’, ask yourself; ‘Do you have time to feel like shit?’.

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  1. Kelly

    Hi Chloe

    Your email has reached me at just the right time. I’m a mum of 2 and feeling very stressed out and in need of some “me time”. I have been debating if I should find tine to de stress this weekend or next and I feel that your email is a call for me to do it this weekend. The way I’m feeling at the moment is no good for myself or my family. Thank you
    : )

    • Chloe B

      hi Kelly – so glad it was good timing! Hope you can do something lovely for yourself this weekend xx


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